So we see it in movies all the time and more often than not they give us an unrealistic view on what a healthy sex life is. And if you’re lucky, you can relate 😉
Don’t be disheartened by that last statement. If you’re doing all or only some of the points made below, you have a great one!
Below is a list of 10 signs you have a healthy sex life, in no particular order. Enjoy!
1. You like it
This one is pretty self-explanatory, but for saying sakes, let’s say you’re not quite sure. It’s important that the sex you’re having is enjoyable for you. There’s no point in doing it if there’s only one happy party, or none. (worst case scenario). If you’re not enjoying it, chances are your partner can probably tell.
2. You’re Comfortable In Your Own Skin
Remember that confidence is key, to well, any occasion. And especially during sex, your confidence is what drives your partner. So be proud in your skin. Forget about the belly rolls and stretch marks, your partner doesn’t care about that. They want to see you exude that confidence in your sexuality, as that is what turns them on!
3. Use Lubricants
Lubricants are not something to be embarrassed about. Using a good lubricant will not only help you achieve a more, umm, exciting sexual experience, it also helps with penetration. You get so many variants of lubricants that target different sensations to make your sex life more enjoyable, who wouldn’t want to use it? Check out some of our products for lubricants.
4. Talk Dirty
Yep, we’ve all been there. Just before “go time”, you find yourself standing in front of the mirror and googling sexy phrases whilst practising in the mirror and let’s just say, it’s awkward AF. However, when you’re in the moment and you’re both on the same page, there is nothing wrong with a little potty mouth during intercourse. It most certainly spices things up and definitely helps with the confidence key.
5. Try Different Positions
Don’t be afraid to try new positions. We’ve all been in the “rut” before. The “routine”. It’s important to add a little spontaneity to your sex life. I know that when some couples hear the word “different positions”, there are all sorts that run through their minds, however, it’s actually not as bad (or “bad”) as you may think. Let’s be honest, you’re probably doing it missionary style and reverse missionary (girl on top). Why not try spooning or reverse missionary with the girl sitting up. (almost like a cowgirl). Throw in some new outfits, try it in a different room of the house. These are all small things that can make a huge difference to add to a healthy sex life with your partner. See, those weren’t so bad.
6. You Schedule It
Look, we get it, sex is enjoyable when it’s “spur of the moment”, deep passion, the type you see in movies (or pornos, whatever you’re in to). However, realistically it’s not always the case and if you don’t have the luxury of having sex at your leisure because you don’t have kids that still live with you or work long hours, then scheduling it is a great thing. It shows that you are making time for each other. So work around that night, put the kids to bed early, eat a light dinner, so you’re not too bloated and make sure you do something relaxing before like watching a TV show or doing some yoga, whatever gets the juices flowing. It helps your mind relax so it can focus on something a little more “R” rated when the time comes.
7. You Speak Up
So you’re not afraid to ask for what you want. And that is great! Your partner is not a mind reader so you do need to sometimes guide him (or her). If something’s not working or you feel like something else might work better, speak up! Remember that it takes TWO to TANGO (yeah, we went there) and if you’re both enjoying it, the experience as a whole, is going to be, well, orgasmic.
8. Share Your Fantasy
Have that conversation. Yes, that one. The one where you tell your partner all about your deepest fantasy. And vice versa. It doesn’t have to be right before or anything. It can be a casual dinner conversation (just please make sure the kids are in bed). Take mental notes so you perhaps surprise him/her when you’re in the sack again.
9. Exercise Your Bits
Kegal exercises. So basically it’s the muscle you use to stop your urine stream. Yes, that one 😉 Hold it for 3-5 seconds and release. Do this 10 times, 5 sets a day. The beauty of this exercise is that it not only strengthens your pelvic area or tightens your vagina/penis, you can do this literally anywhere; driving in your car, sitting at your desk, standing in line at the grocery store. Yep, so there are literally no excuses to get your v and d into shape.
10. You Are Happy Together
Look, we’re not going to beat around the bush. (yeah, that was intentional). Couples who are genuinely happy together will have a more passionate and meaningful sexual experience together as opposed to ones who aren’t. So make sure you talk to your partner every day, make sure you do everything in your relationship to make each other happy. If you’ve just had a fight and resort to “make-up sex”, sure – if it makes you both happy, why not. The foundation to a healthy sex life is trust, respect (or sometimes lack thereof, depending on direction) and talking to each other. If you truly love each other, the rest is easy.